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Western North Dakota , United States
My husband, Allen, and I are high school sweet hearts. We started dating Sep.99'- I kind of followed Allen home one day, and never did leave, is Allen's story. November 02' we were engaged, and on November 22,2003 - we were married. Having been married for 6 years in 2009, marked the 5th year we had been trying to start our family. With the referral of a Fertility Specialist from a friend, our IUI attempts ended up being a complete success despite my doubts. We welcomed our sweet little girl, Hayleigh into the world on June 30,2010 at 6:28am after 37wks and 1 day of gestation. She weighed 7lbs 14oz and was 20 in long. We found out that we were Baby #2 on April Fool's Day- a complete surprise! Reid Allen was born 11/13/12 3:24am 9lbs 8.2oz 21", after 38wks 5 days. Our 3rd baby, Eva Jane, was born on April 19, 2015 after suffering a pregnancy loss June of 2014. We are currently anxiously awaiting baby #4 due 2 days before Eva's birthday, so we are having Irish Twins! Our family is so blessed and happy to be growing!

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Mommy of 2, Colic and a 2 Year Old

Okay, I'm going to be really honest here. It is completely CRAZY in our house in the evening. I find myself cringing when 4pm hits. Around that time, Reid gets colicky, and Hayleigh starts demanding attention to combat with his crying. I know this will all be over sometime soon, and someday, I'll be wishing I was back here again- when both kids are grown and out of the house I imagine....

Anyway, I find myself raising my voice more than I would like, and yelling at Hayleigh a lot more than I would like for her acting out to Reid's crying from colic. I know she is 2 years old. I know she is just wanting more attention. I know that this is not only hard on me, but for her much more. I feel like a bad mom in the evening when it gets completely crazy. I try to commend Hayleigh as much as I can for everything she does that is good, and especially when she is helping me out. But, when she is trying to sit in his swing, stealing his pacifiers, laughing when he is crying, trying to do headstands on the couch, or is screaming when he is crying, I get really stretched thin. I have been getting myself a small drink at night to help calm my nerves- it helps a lot. We have tried everything to help Reid's colic. Some days it's not bad at all....but some days, it lasts the WHOLE ENTIRE DAY. I can handle him crying, and Hayleigh crying for periods of time. It's inevitable... sometimes they will both be crying, and I just have to take care of them one at a time.

In the midst of all of this, I'm wanting to get Hayleigh potty trained. My first nurse at the hospital told me about her daughter, who acted just like Hayleigh does- does not care about having a dirty diaper and loves sitting on the potty, but will not use it. She tried the 3 day potty training method. She said she got it from a book, and it worked! Basically, you have to follow the child around with them just in underwear with rubber pants over- or training pants with the rubber pants and not leave the house. There will be LOTS of messes- makes you feel like training a puppy or something- according to her. She said she wanted to give up that first day so many times- it was very stressful, but she kept up on her, and every time she did not potty on the potty- and did it in her pants, she went on how gross, icky, nasty it was. She would take her to the potty every time, and praise her on the potty. By the second day, it wasn't that bad at all- a few accidents. By day three and after, just accidents here and there. You can find the book here. If you read the reviews, they go into more detail about it all. I will be getting the book soon!

Anyway, things have been stressful. Christmas is right around the corner, I still haven't gotten my proofs back from our newborn shoot, I need to get our Christmas cards sent out, and Christmas shopping done...Just different things are driving me crazy because I'm more stressed. I just about cried to Allen on the phone last night in the middle of the chaos. He was listening to it all, and told me how great I was doing, and that I could make it through. Made me feel so much better having a cheerleader on the phone with me, when he couldn't be here to help! In all reality, we are making it. I know that when the colic is gone, and when Allen gets home, it will be better. I will have more time with Hayleigh- doing crafts or just keeping her busy. Right now, I have to hold and take care of Reid nonstop when his colic hits. I know Hayleigh does not understand waiting yet, or being patient, but she is learning. It is a big change and adjustment going from one 2 year old, to a 2 year old and a newborn...ALL BY YOURSELF.... That is the kicker.... ALL BY MYSELF part... If my husband was home every night, things would be different, but it is what it is, and we are doing what we can to survive these first weeks alone. So, for now, I am counting down the days until Allen will be back home- 4 1/4 days!!!!

Next week, we are going to visit with Santa, and get pictures taken in a private session, bake cookies, and do lots of Christmas crafts and baking. I was really going to do a lot this week with Hayleigh, but I don't want Allen to miss out on it all, and it would be handy to have someone here to help with Reid when I'm elbow deep in cookie icing in the midst of building a gingerbread village. SO, Christmas cheer and spirit are on the way! I promise!! I just have to get my nerves all back, one by one~

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