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Western North Dakota , United States
My husband, Allen, and I are high school sweet hearts. We started dating Sep.99'- I kind of followed Allen home one day, and never did leave, is Allen's story. November 02' we were engaged, and on November 22,2003 - we were married. Having been married for 6 years in 2009, marked the 5th year we had been trying to start our family. With the referral of a Fertility Specialist from a friend, our IUI attempts ended up being a complete success despite my doubts. We welcomed our sweet little girl, Hayleigh into the world on June 30,2010 at 6:28am after 37wks and 1 day of gestation. She weighed 7lbs 14oz and was 20 in long. We found out that we were Baby #2 on April Fool's Day- a complete surprise! Reid Allen was born 11/13/12 3:24am 9lbs 8.2oz 21", after 38wks 5 days. Our 3rd baby, Eva Jane, was born on April 19, 2015 after suffering a pregnancy loss June of 2014. We are currently anxiously awaiting baby #4 due 2 days before Eva's birthday, so we are having Irish Twins! Our family is so blessed and happy to be growing!

Friday, April 29, 2011

Saving Face

Today, I have had all I can take. I have tried being nice, PATIENT, and understanding, but, I am at the end of my rope. There are things that I would like Hayleigh to grow up with and things I don't want her to ever hear or see- everyone wants to protect their baby.
 Among the things that could hurt Hayleigh physically, there are things that could hurt her emotionally in the future that may not seem like big things to some people, but are like brick walls to me. What I am talking about is what we should all do around young ears...watch what we say, and how we say things. I do not want Hayleigh to grow up with ideas that I have concluded that she should have had to come up with on her own. She should be able to come to her on conclusions about things- just because I love to take care of our yard, doesn't mean that Hayleigh should be taught that if lawn care isn't a priority somewhere else, it is bad. I basically do not want Hayleigh to hear me say that just because I don't like something, she shouldn't like it as well. The main problem is I don't want Hayleigh hearing bad things being said about people, and repeating it to those people, or thinking it is perfectly fine to gossip about people, or say mean things behind their backs. I want her to learn from my Grandma Weidner... if you don't have anything to say, don't say anything at all. That woman is the wisest and most gracious lady I know, and has not had a bad thing to say about anyone. She doesn't gossip, which we all should not do. I would rather know what someone thinks about me and tells me to my face, instead of trying to hide it, yet tell everyone else about it. People being 2 faced is plain mean and wrong. I don't want Hayleigh brought up thinking this is okay...to lie. She is soaking everything up like a sponge right now, and the example we set today, will effect her tomorrow.

There are certain people in our lives that are close pulling this trick pony show, and frankly I am fed up with it. They are willing to watch Hayleigh anytime and want to watch her as much as they can, but, complain about watching her when we are not around. With Allen working as much as he does, it leaves a lot of responsibility for me around the house, and with Hayleigh here with me by myself, I cannot get the things that need to be done, done since Hayleigh is still very young. I really do appreciate help when I can get it, but, what I don't appreciate is single minded people, that do not listen, and let their mouths run like a leaky toilet around Hayleigh. I just do not get why they have to say hurtful things. I hear the things said about others, and wonder what is being said about me behind my back in front of Hayleigh. Everything seems to come full circle one way or another, especially when you compare notes with another person, and you cannot believe what is really going on.

There are ways to fixing and putting a Parental Block on the matter. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all, or at least keep it to yourself, and not the whole world. Nobody likes a two faced snake.

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